From Dr. Joe Dispenza, the theory is:
By the time we reach the age of 35, 95% of who we are is a set of memorized behaviors, emotional reactions, unconscious habits, hardwired attitudes, beliefs, and perceptions that function like a computer program.
To proof his point?
A Fleeting Thank You
Confusing Emotion: Every post heart-pouring project, even though no standing ovation was expected, is it normal to feel a pang of... letdown from just a quick "thank you"? Or maybe it's just a craving for more confetti?
Maybe because: Parents and teachers always handed out praise like candy, setting up an expectation of constant validation?
The Unsatisfying Win
Confusing Emotion: Racing to victory only to find the end line feeling oddly... unsatisfactory? Perhaps it's just nostalgia for the good old days of participation trophies.
Maybe because: Competitive sports, movies, and even school events always glorified the winner, placing less emphasis on the journey or the process.
Just Showing Up
Confusing Emotion: Strutted in right on the dot for a client meeting, only to encounter side-eyes and less-than-thrilled expressions from your team who chose to be there early?
Maybe because: In the past, your timely arrivals never drew any complaints and were often praised. But who knew? In the professional world, being 15 minutes early has been the unwritten rule for quite a few decades.
Holding Back the Questions
Confusing Emotion: During important meetings, ever felt the need to clarify something but bit your tongue instead, only to later kick yourself for the missed chance?
Maybe because: The echoing voices of elders saying "don't ask too much" still seem to have a mysterious hold.
Not All Efforts Shine
Confusing Emotion: Logged in countless overtime hours, sacrificed weekends, and expected a sizable bonus. Instead, found out that another team, who seemingly clocked out at 5 PM every day, got a heftier bonus? Excuse me?
Maybe Because: Grew up believing that hard work directly equated to rewards. But in the corporate jungle, it seems results, strategy, or some other metric holds more weight. Maybe it's not just about the hours, but what's achieved in those hours. Time to recalibrate those old beliefs?
Confusing Emotion: Ever feel a strange hit of loneliness or irritation when your partner comes home and doesn't delve into sharing their day?
Maybe because: Teen rom-coms and TV episodes have painted those late-night heart-to-hearts as the gold standard of intimacy. Pop culture has a knack for amplifying these moments, suggesting that if they're missing, something's amiss. While your partner might simply be seeking some quiet time, those cinematic narratives have implanted in you in a very deep level and take over your thoughts and character.
Playing it Too Cool
Confusing Emotion: Got a message from a new date and felt that pressing need to delay your reply, despite everything modern sensibilities tell you?
Maybe because: Classic films, songs, and romance novels once painted a picture where playing "hard to get" was the ultimate romantic gesture. Even when everyone around us today shouts that it's a bygone trend, those old-school tales might be whispering in your ear, suggesting you'd seem too eager or desperate if you replied too soon.
Lightening the Mood
Confusing Emotion: Ever found yourself impulsively cracking a joke during a silent moment in a meeting, even though you were never a fan of loud jokers?
Maybe because: Those cartoons and sitcoms growing up instilled the idea that witty remarks were the key to charm and social ease. Yet now, it feels more like a switch you can't turn off, rather than a choice.